Tips to reduce or eliminate child molestation and paedophilia in your local church
Disclaimer: I do not support nor condone child sexual abuse nor paedophile activities. This is not a legal document and is not intended as a substitute for legal advice. This article does not say all church goers are child abusers and paedophiles. This article does not say all church preachers and ministers are child abusers and paedophiles. Remember that child abuse takes place all over the world by even non Christians.
All praise to the Lord Jesus, who said that unless we become like little children we won’t enter the kingdom of heaven. For Jesus desires that we become trustful of God like how young children trust their parents. I pray for the safety and well being of all children in the church and those not in the church too. Amen.
Here are a few to reduce or eliminate child molestation and paedophilia in your local church:
- Never leave children unattended with non family members for too long behind closed doors or restricted spaces.
- Take personal responsibility to ask your children how was their time at church with other people. Try to observe any undue silence by your child and keep asking more questions if needed.
- Respect the innocence and safety of other people’s children like how you would do for you own.
- Have zero tolerance towards any acts of child molestation in your church.
- Have zero tolerance towards all case of paedophilia even if the child was seduced into giving his or her consent willingly.
- Each and every complaint of child molestation can and must be investigated immediately both by church and law enforcement.
- All church members trying to obstruct investigation or hide evidence must be treated as collaborators with the crime. And they must be reported both to the law enforcement and state or city level church authorities.
- An open atmosphere where well being of children must be maintained everywhere in the church.
- If the parents of the victim are cowardly, then other responsible adults should come forward to the help the victim register the complaint. However, this should be done very carefully. As parents can be pressured by the abuser to file counter complaints saying that you instigated their children to file a false case. So in this regard try to get a secure record, preferably on video in which the child mentions that he or she is giving the complaint of their own free will without any force from your end.
- All church members who are adults must be educated to have regard for their children of the church and not ignore their cries for help or tears especially in church.
- People must be made aware that no one in the church must be allowed to neither molest nor seduce children, no matter what rank, gender or social standing that the perpetrator has. This applies to even non Christians who enter or are associated with the church.
- No exemptions for anyone or any group who doesn’t want their names to be reported to law enforcement in cases of child molestation or paedophilia.
- The burden to safeguard children should not be left to women only. Even the men of the family and the church should help the children in such cases.
- All false alarms and false complaints must be investigated and reported to the authorities. However, care must be taken not to generalize all the future complaints as hoaxes but be diligent instead.
- Do not treat every adult as a suspect as this will allow the actual criminals to escape action by the police and church authorities. So in this regard, have a clear understanding of the consequences of your actions.
- Do no falsely assume like the heathen that each church is filled with paedophiles, and go on a punishing spree. Instead be cordial and polite to all church.
- Do not allow any person accused of paedophilia, to get a transfer nor flee the area where the accusation was made. Involve the police in such cases without hesitation. Do note, that these vile people ie the paedophiles may be very dangerous, so exercise due diligence at all times.
- Your local church must have a written document about how the church and its members deal with instances of child molestation and paedophilia. This should specify as to what is defined as child abuse, the course of action to give justice and also how to given relief and welfare to the child. This document should then be reviewed by valid legal experts and law enforcement for any updating that is needed. This document should be available to anyone on demand without any reason being asked for.
- If your local church doesn’t have any such written document approach your preacher or church elders. If they claim they are not interested or don’t have the authority, then ask them to give a written and signed copy of their statements or you record their statements via audio or video devices. And in such cases, keep asking for higher authorities or supervisors who can arrange for the documents and record every statement of their reluctance. This would be useful as a record of the church’s unwillingness to safeguard children’s well being, in case of any unfortunate event of child abuse in that church, which you can submit to the relevant law enforcement.
- This is the most overlooked thing but do pray for children to have safe and pleasant experiences in the church and everywhere. And pray really well at this. Keep in mind that prayer alone is not substitute for personal responsibility and right action.
- Prayer for deliverance of children from child molestors (disciplesofhope.wordpress.com)
- PRAYER: How to Pray for Protection (stephaniespeakson.wordpress.com)
- Reading the news for prayer needs
- Preventing child sexual abuse (preventchildabuse.org)
- Preventing Child Sexual Abuse – How to reduce this risk in your church (www.churchlawandtax.com)
Posted on February 22, 2018, in Discernment, Discipline, Practical living, Relationship and tagged being prayerful, children, Christian fellowship, Christian growth, clergy, law, protection from abuse, sexual abuse. Bookmark the permalink. 4 Comments.
Children NEVER consent to being molested! They are too afraid to say no to an adult or older children that may abuse them and that does NOT constitute consent. I applaud you for bringing this out in the open but leaving an impression of a child consenting is placing the blame on the child where it definitely IS NOT. The child will live with guilt and shame for many years because of the blame being placed on them. Stop it, please.
I deliberately mentioned the consent part because of certain things that I observed in the world and a local church I once belonged to. Legally a child’s consent is NOT valid. However, when such things do occur in the local church they use their own tactics and they give a big leeway to the accused if the child says that he or she gave consent. They make sure that such a thing never is made known to local law enforcement and destroy all the evidence. There was a girl who just under 18 (I was a year or two younger to her at that time) who was subject to such sexual abuse but the preacher escaped with only a transfer because they manipulated her and her family into saying it was consensual. None of the people of the church could then get the preacher punished. Some of the other clergy however acted and got him some level of reprimand which was the most they could achieve. Therefore if you read point 5 of my article, which says “Have zero tolerance towards all case of paedophilia even if the child was seduced into giving his or her consent willingly.” its basically meaning that ‘consent’ should not be given as an opportunity for the accused to escape justice, because unfortunately not all churches want to get things out to the police and use their own ‘standards’ to define child abuse.
I wrote this out considering that people from various nations do read this blog and many local churches have their own laws and interpretation. On a side note, though this is a not a church level abuse, I came across an instance in a distant land, Brazil where they are considering to the reduce the age of consent from 14 to 12 years (article : Brazilian court acquits child molester: says victims were ‘far from being innocent’ – https://www.lifesitenews.com/news/brazilian-court-acquits-child-molester-says-victims-were-far-from-being-inn )
I did read #5, as well as the whole post, and that’s what got my hackles up. I can see where a 15 -18 yr. old can be intrepeted as giving consent since every molester says “they wanted it” regardless of their age, even 2 year olds. I didn’t realize it was written for several countries so thank you for the explanation and you’re right, “have 0 tolerance.” I’ve been in churches that did call police and backed up the victim in court, Praise God, but I also know of others that took the molester’s side and did nothing except blame the victim. Again, thanks for the explanation.
No problem. Your welcome.
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