People say that they have nothing to hide but yet they may have things on them which may endanger their good standing before their spouse, relatives and even the society they live in. Let me make it real to you; a politician is considered the best leader of the state for many years. But all of a sudden a secret which only his former aide knows comes out. The politician was once a drug addict in his teenage years and had to be rehabilitated but eventually overcame it all. However the politician’s former worker out of a evil heart bent on making money would tell about the drug addiction part but not mention that how the politician overcame his habit. Now there could be huge controversy in the media and political world, leading to the politician losing the confidence of his people and eventually having to resign and retire as well. However this could be averted by either of the two ways:
- The politician should have not trusted his former aide with his secret.
- The aide should have kept quiet.
I’d like to focus now on the part of keeping quiet. Imagine if you will, things didn’t work out well for the aide and instead he got sued for over a million and even landed in jail for not keeping privacy. Things like these too happen.
Whoever goes about slandering reveals secrets, but he who is trustworthy in spirit keeps a thing covered. (Proverbs 11:13)
An employee giving out secrets of a banking corporation in terms of their hidden plan to enter the equities market, can result in big time losses to that corporation or undue advantage to its competitors. If such an employee is found out, you can only imagine the lawsuits and jail time such a person would be getting. And also, there would hardly be any other bank that would then try to ever employ such a traitor of an employee. But what if in the first place, such a corrupt employee would never be given access to the banking corporation’s expansion plans? There are certain banks which give information to only select staff members about their tactical future plan and not to everyone in their employ. Then obviously there would very less a chance of information leaking to the public and competitors.
Imagine if an army general while being drunk at a party tells of the location of the nuclear warhead codes to anyone who gives him a drink. And then person who gave him the drink turns out to be a spy of an evil nation. Then there could be loss of life to the nation or innocents in other world regions, thanks to one incompetent general. No matter how much the general pleads, the army judge won’t give him a chance at normal life. And obviously, the army will do everything in its power to punish the general. Retirement benefits are out of the question of such secret revealing general.
This is the point, I’d like to make; keep quiet on your secrets when you have to keep quiet on them.
Let me make it real to you. Remember the incident in the Bible about Samson and Delilah (Refer the entire chapter of Judges Chapter 16) and you’d understand how the great warrior Samson who been given tremendous strength by the Lord God to defend Israel lost it all. And how did he lose it? The woman Delilah (as traitorous like Judas) tricked Samson by means of much fake love and concern into giving out the secret of his power. And the consequences were very nasty for Samson. Let’s read the following:
15 And she said to him, “How can you say, ‘I love you,’ when your heart is not with me? You have mocked me these three times, and you have not told me where your great strength lies.” 16 And when she pressed him hard with her words day after day, and urged him, his soul was vexed to death. 17 And he told her all his heart, and said to her, “A razor has never come upon my head, for I have been a Nazirite to God from my mother’s womb. If my head is shaved, then my strength will leave me, and I shall become weak and be like any other man.”
18 When Delilah saw that he had told her all his heart, she sent and called the lords of the Philistines, saying, “Come up again, for he has told me all his heart.” Then the lords of the Philistines came up to her and brought the money in their hands. 19 She made him sleep on her knees. And she called a man and had him shave off the seven locks of his head. Then she began to torment him, and his strength left him. 20 And she said, “The Philistines are upon you, Samson!” And he awoke from his sleep and said, “I will go out as at other times and shake myself free.” But he did not know that the Lord had left him. 21 And the Philistines seized him and gouged out his eyes and brought him down to Gaza and bound him with bronze shackles. And he ground at the mill in the prison.
Now if you read the entire chapter of Judges 16, you’d know that Samson already lost his internal discipline due to getting into illegal affairs with women of perverse nature, Delilah being one of them. What makes Delilah more vicious is that she faked her love for him at the bidding of the Philistines only to wait for the opportunity to find out the secret of Samson’s strength. You will need internal discipline to ensure that you ward off any repeated attempts by vile people to away your secrets. Yes, be ready for repeated attempts if you have to.
There might be some people who might say why don’t you see how the Lord God still blessed Samson when he repented and due to that Samson took down with him at his death even more than those whom he had killed during his life? I’d say to them, I do not overlook the mercy of God in such a case. For the Lord God is even merciful to the very end. And by the Lord did Samson destroy the enemies of God’s people even at the last hour of his life. But here’s what I have to say; do not put your Lord your God to test by citing the example of Samson in giving away secrets that should never be given at all. Remember dear reader, that Samson’s eyes were gouged out. Eyes! A pin prick can cause much pain to most people, how much more the horrendous removing of eyes.
Now the Bible does not speak of Delilah’s repentance. See and make note, there are some people who never repent for the damage they cause by misusing secrets. Don’t think that Delilah went to heaven, unless the Bible clearly says so. There are people so hardened of heart that they just do not care if they made wrong use of your secret or of anyone else.
If Samson were given the option to turn back time after all that happened to him (unfortunately who even gets this option) I think he would first off never be friends with the wrong women and never have given off his God given secret of strength to anyone! Don’t want to hide this but there are many in this world who wish they could only turn back time to prevent themselves giving out their secrets which may have caused them great shame, vast disrepute and even major financial losses. They won’t be able to turn back time by themselves. But at least if they then decide to be wiser and call upon the name of the Lord God they would stand a chance to live in faith and honor.
Now that you know this, please avoid giving out your secrets when you do not have to. Some secrets in fact must never be given out (to be covered in a later post). And trust in the Lord God and do not put him to the test.
Christ be with you!
Never get fooled that tolerance is the only thing to have when dealing with others, especially those who hate you and your faith in Christ. You also need prudence. One also needs to be alert. Most of all, your tolerance must be as per God’s will which includes prudence and vigilance and not as per man’s opinions. Blind tolerance is nothing less than foolishness. To be wise in your tolerance, you need to read the Bible for this and not just a few verses, you need to take the whole Bible into perspective.
Some people are overzealous about; Judge not, that you be not judged (Matthew 7:1). These behave that this is the only verse they ought to follow. I’ve already written an article about this (click here to view it) in order to let such people get the right idea of ‘judge not’, so I won’t elaborate too much on this.
The Bible tells us to be vigilant:
Therefore let anyone who thinks that he stands take heed lest he fall. (1 Corinthians 10:12)
Only take care, and keep your soul diligently, lest you forget the things that your eyes have seen, and lest they depart from your heart all the days of your life. Make them known to your children and your children’s children (Deuteronomy 4:9).
It also reminds us to be prudent:
The prudent sees danger and hides himself, but the simple go on and suffer for it. (Proverbs 22:3)
But the Pharisees went out and conspired against him, how to destroy him. Jesus, aware of this, withdrew from there. And many followed him, and he healed them all and ordered them not to make him known. (Matthew 12:14-16)
Do not give dogs what is holy, and do not throw your pearls before pigs, lest they trample them underfoot and turn to attack you. (Matthew 7:6)
We also need to discern:
Leave the presence of a fool, for there you do not meet words of knowledge.(Proverbs 14:7)
He who justifies the wicked and he who condemns the righteous are both alike an abomination to the Lord.(Proverbs 17:15)
There are things we are not to tolerate:
But I have this against you, that you tolerate that woman Jezebel, who calls herself a prophetess and is teaching and seducing my servants to practice sexual immorality and to eat food sacrificed to idols. (Revelation 2:20)
I appeal to you, brothers, to watch out for those who cause divisions and create obstacles contrary to the doctrine that you have been taught; avoid them. (Romans 16:17)
Our tolerance towards others must not mean that we compromise on vigilance, prudence nor discernment. We are not called to tolerate each and everything. One needs to have a balanced view of the Bible in all things.
Some might say, ‘we are to turn the other cheek’ and to them I say ‘do not put the Lord your God to the test’. If you are to choose between life and Christ, its best to take Christ for yourself. But don’t deliberately put yourself or your loved ones in a situation where doesn’t know how to deal with danger. Not every time this is case of getting tempted to leave Christ. And not everyone out in the world is a criminal. But some are indeed evil! So we must go by the facts and not ignore them. If a leopard has attacked many cattle, don’t assume it’ll be tame towards you because it never killed a human before. You don’t give it to act first to make a decision but instead you first make sure you keep a safe distance from the wild cat or be out of sight.
In the same way, if you know that there are people with a history of violence, you don’t try to play ‘nice’. Instead you keep a safe distance from them. I’m not talking about only terrorists. This is about thugs and murderers too. Also, warn your children and loved ones to know whom to get near and whom to keep away from.
Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it. (Proverbs 22: 6)
Make no friendship with a man given to anger, nor go with a wrathful man, lest you learn his ways and entangle yourself in a snare. (Proverbs 22:24-25)
Whoever plans to do evil will be called a schemer. The devising of folly is sin, and the scoffer is an abomination to mankind. (Proverbs 24: 8-9)
Never get too happy when you see evil doers go down in life. Such rejoicing must be avoided. Be sober because it’s the Lord God fighting them. And the Lord can use angels, animals and even humans to do his work of justice.
Do not rejoice when your enemy falls, and let not your heart be glad when he stumbles, lest the Lord see it and be displeased, and turn away his anger from him. (Proverbs 24: 17-18)
You might find my opinion a bit odd, but at times when I came know of so and so sinners, even terrorists who died when being confronted by workers of justice, I felt bad that such souls have not accepted the Gospel and not repented and so are not going to heaven. For a few seconds I tried to imagine that if they accepted the Lord Jesus much earlier in life, how much damage and death to others could have been avoided in the first place.
Then reality set in, I viewed the new reports again and I realized there were innocent people, even innocent kids who got killed by these evil doers. So Divine justice already had to tackle the murderers on earth itself before giving them their due punishment in hell. So if even if you hear of such workers of iniquity getting harmed or killed, do not rejoice but rather pray for the victims of their crimes and also for the victims families. Don’t pray for the wicked who have died in battle, since there is no hope for them.
Fret not yourself because of evildoers, and be not envious of the wicked, for the evil man has no future; the lamp of the wicked will be put out. (Proverbs 24: 19-20)
Verses for reflection:
To the angel of the church in Ephesus write: ‘The words of him who holds the seven stars in his right hand, who walks among the seven golden lampstands. “‘I know your works, your toil and your patient endurance, and how you cannot bear with those who are evil, but have tested those who call themselves apostles and are not, and found them to be false. I know you are enduring patiently and bearing up for my name’s sake, and you have not grown weary. But I have this against you, that you have abandoned the love you had at first. Remember therefore from where you have fallen; repent, and do the works you did at first. If not, I will come to you and remove your lampstand from its place, unless you repent. Yet this you have: you hate the works of the Nicolaitans, which I also hate. He who has an ear, let him hear what the Spirit says to the churches. To the one who conquers I will grant to eat of the tree of life, which is in the paradise of God.’ (Revelation 2: 1-7)
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The Bible teaches us how to spend our time well. No one must keep saying that they don’t have time for spiritual things as they are busy. That’s your priority with the Lord God. In my earlier article (Use your time wisely) I mentioned that your time wisely for it won’t come back. Here are some time management principles from the Bible with a few comments before them to clarify things for you:
Check where and on what are you investing your time and if its by the will of God.
Look carefully then how you walk, not as unwise but as wise, making the best use of the time, because the days are evil. Therefore do not be foolish, but understand what the will of the Lord is. (Ephesians 5:15-17)
Once you get the right idea, do this.
Commit your work to the Lord, and your plans will be established. (Proverbs 16:3)
Remember that you have limited time.
We must work the works of him who sent me while it is day; night is coming, when no one can work. (John 9:4)
“O Lord, make me know my end and what is the measure of my days; let me know how fleeting I am! Behold, you have made my days a few handbreadths, and my lifetime is as nothing before you. Surely all mankind stands as a mere breath! Selah (Psalm 39:4-5)
So teach us to number our days that we may get a heart of wisdom. (Psalm 90:12)
Have rational targets to achieve in peace.
Better one handful with rest than two handfuls with effort and a pursuit of the wind. (Ecclesiastes 4:6)
Plan out your actions in advance and act prudently to avoid losses later.
For which of you, desiring to build a tower, does not first sit down and count the cost, whether he has enough to complete it? (Luke 14:28)
Go to the ant, O lazy person. Watch and think about her ways, and be wise. She has no leader, head or ruler, but she gets her food ready in the summer, and gathers her food at the right time. (Proverbs 6:6-8)
Don’t be lazy because you won’t get any good from it.
Even while we were with you, we gave you this command: “Those unwilling to work will not get to eat.” (2 Thessalonians 3:10)
A little sleep, a little slumber, a little folding of the hands to rest, and poverty will come upon you like a robber, and want like an armed man. (Proverbs 6:10-11)
A sluggard’s appetite is never filled, but the desires of the diligent are fully satisfied. (Proverbs 13:4)
Laziness throws one into a deep sleep, and an idle person will go hungry. (Proverbs 19:15)
Sluggards do not plow in season; so at harvest time they look but find nothing. (Proverbs 20:4)
Don’t invent absurd reasons to be lazy.
Whenever a lazy man is sent, he says, “A lion is in the road”; “a lion is in the midst of the streets.” (Proverbs 26:13)
Be diligent with your time.
She watches over the affairs of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness. (Proverbs 31:27)
There are times for different purposes so act accordingly.
A time to love, and a time to hate; a time for war, and a time for peace. (Ecclesiastes 3:8)
Even the stork in the sky knows her appointed seasons, and the dove, the swift and the thrush observe the time of their migration. But my people do not know the requirements of the LORD. (Jeremiah 8:7)
Keep the teachings and commandments to prolong your life.
My son, do not forget my teaching, but let your heart keep my commandments, for length of days and years of life and peace they will add to you. (Proverbs 3:1-2)
Listen, my son, and be wise, and set your heart on the right path (Proverbs 23:19)
Attend to your own work to avoid lack.
…and to make it your ambition to lead a quiet life and attend to your own business and work with your hands, just as we commanded you, so that you will behave properly toward outsiders and not be in any need. (1 Thessalonians 4:11)
Spare no efforts on your way to a good result.
In the morning sow your seed, and in the evening withhold not your hand: for you know not which shall prosper, either this or that, or whether they both alike shall be good. (Ecclesiastes 11:6)
Now this I say, he who sows sparingly will also reap sparingly, and he who sows bountifully will also reap bountifully. Now this I say, he who sows sparingly will also reap sparingly, and he who sows bountifully will also reap bountifully. (2 Corinthians 9:6)
Don’t give up easily, have patience.
Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up. (Galatians 6:9)
Be alert and prayerful always.
Be on your guard [constantly alert], and watch and pray; for you do not know when the time will come. (Mark 13: 33)
Prudent living is vital factor that keeps you from danger. The Bible from beginning to end speaks about prudence. We are advised not be take everything at face value but check for hidden signs of danger. Jesus too has spoken of being prudent. As a follower of the Gospel, its important for you to follow the words of Jesus and also what God has mentioned in the Bible.
Proverbs 27:12 A prudent man sees danger and takes refuge; But the simple pass on, and suffer for it
We are to keep silent at certain times in life.
Amos 5:13 Therefore at such a time the prudent person keeps silent, for it is an evil time.
We are beware of whom we are speaking to.
Matthew 7:6 “Do not give what is holy to dogs, and do not throw your pearls before swine, or they will trample them under their feet, and turn and tear you to pieces.
Psalms 39:1 I said, “I will guard my ways That I may not sin with my tongue; I will guard my mouth as with a muzzle while the wicked are in my presence.”
Speaking should be about doing what is right.
Proverbs 12:23 A prudent man conceals knowledge, But the heart of fools proclaims folly.
Proverbs 21:23 He who guards his mouth and his tongue, Guards his soul from troubles.
You need to control your temper.
Proverbs 14:17 A quick-tempered man acts foolishly, And a man of evil devices is hated.
Proverbs 25:23 The north wind brings forth rain, And a backbiting tongue, an angry countenance.
You need to be prudent in your planning.
Proverbs 24:27 Prepare your work outside And make it ready for yourself in the field; Afterwards, then, build your house.
Proverbs 6:6-11 Go to the ant, O sluggard, Observe her ways and be wise, Which, having no chief, Officer or ruler, Prepares her food in the summer And gathers her provision in the harvest.
Luke 14:28-32 “For which one of you, when he wants to build a tower, does not first sit down and calculate the cost to see if he has enough to complete it? “Otherwise, when he has laid a foundation and is not able to finish, all who observe it begin to ridicule him, saying, `This man began to build and was not able to finish.’
You need pay attention and seek knowledge.
Proverbs 18:15 The mind of the prudent acquires knowledge, And the ear of the wise seeks knowledge.
You need to keep the word of God.
John 14:23 Jesus answered him, “If anyone loves me, he will keep my word, and my Father will love him, and we will come to him and make our home with him.
Proverbs 15:5 A fool despises his father’s instruction, but whoever heeds reproof is prudent.
You need to act on the word of God no matter what.
Joshua 1:8 “This book of the law shall not depart from your mouth, but you shall meditate on it day and night, so that you may be careful to do according to all that is written in it; for then you will make your way prosperous, and then you will have success.
Matthew 7:24-25 “Therefore everyone who hears these words of Mine and acts on them, may be compared to a wise man who built his house on the rock. “And the rain fell, and the floods came, and the winds blew and slammed against that house; and yet it did not fall, for it had been founded on the rock.
Luke 12:42-44 And the Lord said, “Who then is the faithful and sensible steward, whom his master will put in charge of his servants, to give them their rations at the proper time? “Blessed is that slave whom his master finds so doing when he comes. “Truly I say to you that he will put him in charge of all his possessions.
Being a unmarried in Christianity is not a sin. God doesn’t condemn you for being unmarried.
There are Bible verses that indeed promote marriage and those that promote celibacy. God gives a choice on that. You just need to know if you are to get married or remain single.
In case of being single, there’s a good concept of being celibate and using such a life to preach the gospel and help the lowest and the poorest of society. Due to being single one has lesser family responsibilities, lesser economic and travel restrictions, so that the gospel can be preached. Here one remains single because one gets a divine inspiration from God. This is totally between that person and God. A few examples of those who were unmarried and yet were fruitful for God are Enoch the seventh son of Adam, Daniel the prophet and John the Baptist.
However, this status of being single and celibate is sometimes hyped up too much when in fact even married people have done great things for God. For instance Abraham and his wife Sarah, Moses and even most of the 12 Apostles of Jesus were married. So the deciding factor is whether married or not does your heart beat for Jesus?
If you are called to be married then you must realize the importance of being faithful to your spouse and caring for your children. It’s easy to get married to the right person as easy to recieve Jesus. You need to have faith. Yes, faith that trusts God to give you the right person and at the right time.
About getting the right person what you need to do is look for the right qualities. What qualities to look for? I don’t have a detailed list but I will do share some info on this. The right person has faith in the Lord Jesus. Such a person has a sound mind and approach to life. Obviously such a person should not be lazy. The person is not given to vices such as drunkenness, doing drugs and cigarettes, sexual immorality, violence, thieving, robbery, money laundering etc. The person should take up the righteousness that comes from Christ and carry ones cross daily. The person must have a nurturing and encouraging nature towards kids. The person should be clear in their walk and also their talk. Nobody wants a shady and secretive spouse. It’s a marriage and not a spy thing.
There’s a lot of emphasis in the world that a spouse should be wealthy and good looking. The Bible doesn’t however place too much importance on that. Because faithfulness and loyalty to one’s spouse is more important.
There are more divorces due to lack of faithfulness than ugliness and poverty.
While you are waiting to married don’t get discouraged seeing others getting married before you. Stop blaming God for anything as you are not wiser than him. Instead trust in his providence towards you. He takes personal interest in your life. The only reason why things get delayed is due lack of faith and preparation on your end. This is where your attitude and expectations come into play. If you are forever be stuck on late night partying and during the day are groggy looking, then expect to get married then you need to change your mindset. Most married couples find it very hard to live in peace if either one of the spouse parties all night leaving the other person at home. If this is not expected in a married persons life then you better start preparing yourself in your behavior.
Your behavior plays a huge part in determining that once you meet a potential spouse you both end up getting married. Be polite and kind in words and deeds. Bad hygiene is big no for both males and females. Wearing clean and well stitched clothes and a mild perfume is ideal whenever you both meet. Avoid flashy and outlandish costumes unless the other is totally fine with it. Don’t presume permission but instead ask in advance. It won’t hurt. Talk to each other, don’t maintain silence for too long. Speak but also stop so that the other can speak to you.
Only when you both are comfortable talk about getting married. Now just a point, is that please do not drag the wait-till-we-decide time for too long. It only creates negative emotions and waste of time.
Get to know the parents and relatives of your fiance well in advance before meeting them. Though marriage laws need only that the couple be consenting adults, some marriages are prevented due either persons families interfering. Take your own parents into confidence before confirming your interest in your fiance before his/her parents.
Do read the Bible especially the book of Proverbs and the letters of the Apostles which have a lot of insight on marriage. Biblical wisdom supercedes all wordly knowledge even in marriage. Above all place your trust in the Lord Jesus in everything you do.